I saw a USPS mail carrier—wearing government-issued shorts—doing her rounds while I was taking my daily power walk.
Damn, I thought passing her on the sidewalk, she has some nice ass legs.
A few days later, I saw the mail carrier again and called out to her:
“You know you’re my leg inspiration, right?”
“It’s funny you should say that” she answered, “because I thought about you last night.”
For the life of me, I couldn’t imagine why.
I mean, I’ve been looking like a hot mess lately, and was feeling like I wasn’t accomplishing much more than cooking and cleaning for my parents since moving to Chicago.
Do you feel like you’re not accomplishing much?
Anyway, it turns out that the mail carrier’s name is Vicky, and she explained that she’d thought about me when debating whether to walk a mile the evening before; she decided that she would.
Resuming my own walk after stopping to chat, I thought about how easy it is for us to go through life oblivious to the positive ways that we impact people—had I not said anything to Vicky, I’d have never known that I had any effect on her.
So maybe I didn’t inspire her to climb mountains, but I did inspire her to walk by setting an example myself.
And there’s something else pertinent here:
Caring for my parents may not win me awards, but it’s important work.
And while I’d love to do more work on my career than I’m doing now, that’s not in the cards for the moment. But the fact that I’m at peace about it shows me how much I’ve grown—“old” Mimi would have been very bothered by not getting to do what she wanted.
If you feel like you’re not accomplishing much, you may not be taking credit for the impact of you showing up, the important but unglamorous work that you do, or for your personal growth.
On Wednesday of last week, I learned that I’d inspired Vicky to exercise.
On Thursday, I got an email from someone thanking me for my help with an important personal matter.
Also on Thursday, I got an email from a client saying that she was “still floating high” from our session that was “sooooo valuable.”
And on Saturday, I got an email from a friend thanking me for helping her to make her dreams come true.
Not a shabby week for a chick who was feeling like she wasn’t accomplishing much, huh?
The fact that I didn’t do anything special, in my mind, to positively impact these women doesn’t make what I did for each of them any less of an accomplishment.
If you feel like you’re not accomplishing much, you might be forgetting the things that you do naturally.
Or you might be focusing too far into the future.
I dream about changing people’s lives for the better.
I can mostly see how I want to do that.
And that’s part of my problem:
When I’m not working directly toward my future desired goals, I don’t tend to celebrate what I’m accomplishing in the present.
Or see what I’m accomplishing at all.
Might something similar be happening with you?